From: Marsha on
Dave C. wrote:
> If you do call the cops, don't mention his behavior. That will cloud the issue and the cops likely won't give a damn. Just complain that he's trespassing. KISS principle applies. She owns the house, she wants him to leave, he won't leave, he's trespassing. Cops will respond to that, as it's less of a domestic issue and more of a black/white legal issue. He's breaking the law, the cops will handle it. -Dave

That makes sense - just let him hang himself, which he would. He
doesn't respect authority, so I can picture him yelling at the cops and
making no sense at all. I just hope she can follow through and break
free from this jackass.

Marsha
From: phil scott on
On Oct 11, 1:14 pm, Marsha <m...(a)xeb.net> wrote:
> My milktoast sister does plan on consulting an attorney finally, but
> does anyone know what she has to do to get rid of a roommate
> (boyfriend)?  She owns the home outright.  He's a verbal abuser and
> plays mind games, like hiding her jewelry and undoing a couple small
> improvements he's made to her home.  She owns the home outright.  He has
> never paid anywhere near an equal share of the bills.  I'm thinking she
> may have to formally give him 30 days notice and then just evict him,
> probably with the help of some law enforcement.
>
> Marsha

unless she as a written lease agreement she can simply change the
locks and leave
his stuff in plastic sacks on the front law, notify the police of
potential issues, and have
someone stay with her until the dust settles.


Phil scott I am not an attorney

From: phil scott on
On Oct 11, 2:54 pm, Al <albun...(a)mailinator.com> wrote:
> On Oct 11, 4:14 pm, Marsha <m...(a)xeb.net> wrote:
>
> > My milktoast sister does plan on consulting an attorney finally, but
> > does anyone know what she has to do to get rid of a roommate
> > (boyfriend)?  She owns the home outright.  He's a verbal abuser and
> > plays mind games, like hiding her jewelry and undoing a couple small
> > improvements he's made to her home.  She owns the home outright.  He has
> > never paid anywhere near an equal share of the bills.  I'm thinking she
> > may have to formally give him 30 days notice and then just evict him,
> > probably with the help of some law enforcement.
>
> > Marsha
>
> Seems like a legal tenancy has been created and a formal eviction will
> be needed to do it legally.
> Your sister might find a replacement boyfriend that is not a milk
> toast and he could be more persuasive.
> Why not try this question on one of the legal groups? Mentioning the
> state and city would also be a big help.

the dirt bag would have to sue if there is any question, if there is
not a signed lease
agreement, chances he'd win approach zero... and he probably wouldnt
invest the money
to sue.... and for what 'damages' Id just change the locks, put his
stuff on the front lawn in plastic bags and rent a rotweiler, borrow a
shot gun and invite a friend or two to stay for a while


From: phil scott on
On Oct 11, 3:31 am, "Dave C." <no...(a)nohow.never> wrote:
> On Sun, 11 Oct 2009 16:14:54 -0400
>
> Marsha <m...(a)xeb.net> wrote:
> > My milktoast sister does plan on consulting an attorney finally, but
> > does anyone know what she has to do to get rid of a roommate
> > (boyfriend)?  She owns the home outright.
>
> Has she asked him to leave?  If she's asked him to leave and he refuses to leave, then he is a trespasser.  Depending on how long they've been living together though, she might have a bigger problem.  That is, she might have to formally file for divorce before she can ever get married to someone else.  Check common law marriage statutes for the state she's living in.
>
> But if she hasn't inadvertently married him (by common law) then he's a trespasser.  Call the cops.  Let the guy try to verbally abuse the cops.  See how well that works out for him.  :)  -Dave

good advice.

those types though are camelions. pro's at being so nice you wouldnt
believe it when its in their interests... Id just change the locks
myself.... he'd have to win in court if he fights it... with 5 or 10k
to lose in attorney fees, and damn little to gain,


Phil scott
From: Dave C. on
On Sun, 11 Oct 2009 22:03:27 -0400
Marsha <mas(a)xeb.net> wrote:

> Dave C. wrote:
> > If you do call the cops, don't mention his behavior. That will cloud the issue and the cops likely won't give a damn. Just complain that he's trespassing. KISS principle applies. She owns the house, she wants him to leave, he won't leave, he's trespassing. Cops will respond to that, as it's less of a domestic issue and more of a black/white legal issue. He's breaking the law, the cops will handle it. -Dave
>
> That makes sense - just let him hang himself, which he would. He
> doesn't respect authority, so I can picture him yelling at the cops and
> making no sense at all. I just hope she can follow through and break
> free from this jackass.
>
> Marsha


Y'know, I shouldn't mention this, but someone should probably speak up and say something.

This situation, as you describe it, has all the earmarks of a future headline news story. You know, the kind where the reporters talk to the neighbors, who invariably remark, "She was such a nice person...I just don't understand how anybody could DO that to her..." (wiping tears away)

I wish I was joking. -Dave