From: friesian on
On Oct 11, 1:37 pm, watcher <watc...(a)news.netaxs.com> wrote:
> On 2009-10-11, Marsha <m...(a)xeb.net> wrote:
>
> > My milktoast sister does plan on consulting an attorney finally, but
> > does anyone know what she has to do to get rid of a roommate
> > (boyfriend)?  She owns the home outright.  He's a verbal abuser and
> > plays mind games, like hiding her jewelry and undoing a couple small
> > improvements he's made to her home.  She owns the home outright.  He has
> > never paid anywhere near an equal share of the bills.  I'm thinking she
> > may have to formally give him 30 days notice and then just evict him,
> > probably with the help of some law enforcement.
>
> > Marsha
>
> One way might be for her(or you, or some agressive friend of hers) to wait
> until he has to go out of the house for a while.  At that point, she gets the
> locks changed and throws all his stuff out into the front yard.  At that point,
> he might get the message.
>
> W.

Depending on the location, that could have him winning a lawsuit
against her. We had to take people to court, which took more than a
month for the court date, and THEN, they had 30 days to get out. And
since they were broke, they took the whole 30 days. So, from beginning
to end, we lost another 2 months of rents and utilities in addition to
the amount that they were behind (the reason we were evicting them).

In a situation like this, it would be ideal if there were a way to
make him want to leave sooner than that. But not in a way that would
be considered harrassment.



From: Dave C. on
On Sun, 11 Oct 2009 23:59:35 -0500
Balvenieman <balvenieman(a)invalid.net> wrote:

>
> "Dave C." <noway(a)nohow.never> wrote:
>
> >If you are living with someone long enough, he becomes your common law husband.
> Strictly speaking that simply is not the case in most, if not all,
> jurisdictions in the U.S.A. A narrow set of conditions must prevail in
> order for a judge (the only person who can do so) to declare persons to
> be "common law" spouses. "Common law" spouse just as "fiancé" is, in
> common parlance, simply PCSpeak for "cohabitant", "live-in" or
> "shackup".
> In my view, OP's most constructive and civilized course of action
> is to butt out and let her sister live her own life in return for the
> same respect and regard.
> --

And when the sister ends up dead? Will it make the OP feel better to know that she took the civilized course of action and let her sister die? -Dave
From: Dave C. on
On Mon, 12 Oct 2009 14:27:08 +1100
"holarchy" <holarchy(a)nospam.com> wrote:

Damn Rod, that's about what, nymshift number 20 or so?
From: � Jeem � on
On Sun, 11 Oct 2009 23:59:35 -0500, Balvenieman
<balvenieman(a)invalid.net> wrote:

>
>"Dave C." <noway(a)nohow.never> wrote:
>
>>If you are living with someone long enough, he becomes your common law husband.
> Strictly speaking that simply is not the case in most, if not all,
>jurisdictions in the U.S.A. A narrow set of conditions must prevail in
>order for a judge (the only person who can do so) to declare persons to
>be "common law" spouses. "Common law" spouse just as "fianc�" is, in
>common parlance, simply PCSpeak for "cohabitant", "live-in" or
>"shackup".
> In my view, OP's most constructive and civilized course of action
>is to butt out and let her sister live her own life in return for the
>same respect and regard.

Only a handful of states recognize Common Law Marriage:

http://www.ncsl.org/default.aspx?tabid=4265

If the OP's sister resides in the majority of states which do not
recognize Common Law Marriage, then she has the right to allow her BF
to stay or tell him to leave, if his name is not on the deed to the
home.

From: � Jeem � on
On Sun, 11 Oct 2009 20:16:59 -0700 (PDT), phil scott
<phil(a)philscott.net> wrote:

>On Oct 11, 1:14�pm, Marsha <m...(a)xeb.net> wrote:
>> My milktoast sister does plan on consulting an attorney finally, but
>> does anyone know what she has to do to get rid of a roommate
>> (boyfriend)? �She owns the home outright. �He's a verbal abuser and
>> plays mind games, like hiding her jewelry and undoing a couple small
>> improvements he's made to her home. �She owns the home outright. �He has
>> never paid anywhere near an equal share of the bills. �I'm thinking she
>> may have to formally give him 30 days notice and then just evict him,
>> probably with the help of some law enforcement.
>>
>> Marsha
>
>unless she as a written lease agreement she can simply change the
>locks and leave
>his stuff in plastic sacks on the front law, notify the police of
>potential issues, and have
>someone stay with her until the dust settles.

Agreed. If there is no rental agreement or lease, she has no
obligation to allow the BF to live with her. She is doing this just of
her own free will. She had a romantic interest in the man and now she
does not. That does not obligate her to allow him to live in her home.
If they were renting an apartment or house and both names were on the
lease, that would be a different story.