On keeping your friends after winning the lottery
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From: Lenona on 14 Dec 2009 16:02 I thought Miss Manners' answer to this was clever. Lenona. http://lifestyle.msn.com/relationships/article.aspx?cp-documentid=22790208 Dear Miss Manners, Some friends and I were discussing what we would do in the unlikely event that any of us won the lottery, and find we need to appeal to you on one major question that came up. What is the etiquette involved in suddenly becoming embarrassingly rich? Of course, we all agreed that none of us would flaunt it, but the fact remains that, even if one accepted the winnings anonymously, one would have a moral responsibility to use large portions of the winnings to help out friends, relatives and charities. It would be impossible, in that case, to hide the fact that one had "come into" a bit of money. How does one politely refuse to divulge the exact amount of winnings received? Or for that matter, the amounts given to various people and causes, or even the amount of winnings currently remaining? How does one politely refuse to become a fairy godmother to everybody and their sister? If one wishes to, say, fund the college education of a cousin's three children, is it necessary to gift an equal amount of money to the comfortably well-off cousin's childless sibling? Is it possible to give money to charities and not have them hound you for the rest of your life? These are burning questions to which we all hope to need the answers soon.
From: Max on 14 Dec 2009 19:33 On Dec 14, 4:02 pm, Lenona <lenona...(a)yahoo.com> wrote: > I thought Miss Manners' answer to this was clever. > > Lenona. > > > Dear Miss Manners, > Some friends and I were discussing what we would do in the unlikely > event that any of us won the lottery, and find we need to appeal to > you on one major question that came up. What is the etiquette involved > in suddenly becoming embarrassingly rich? > > Of course, we all agreed that none of us would flaunt it, but the fact > remains that, even if one accepted the winnings anonymously, one would > have a moral responsibility to use large portions of the winnings to > help out friends, relatives and charities. It would be impossible, in > that case, to hide the fact that one had "come into" a bit of money. > > How does one politely refuse to divulge the exact amount of winnings > received? Or for that matter, the amounts given to various people and > causes, or even the amount of winnings currently remaining? How does > one politely refuse to become a fairy godmother to everybody and their > sister? If one wishes to, say, fund the college education of a > cousin's three children, is it necessary to gift an equal amount of > money to the comfortably well-off cousin's childless sibling? Is it > possible to give money to charities and not have them hound you for > the rest of your life? > > These are burning questions to which we all hope to need the answers > soon. Three decades ago I came into $3 million over a short period of time. I did not reveal the fact to friends at the time. I must say my concern for others dwindled to almost nothing during that era. The windfall was short lived due to market changes in the gas & oil exploration business. I think I'm better off now and care more for people. Everybody handles these things differently, but I have never had trouble telling people NO.
From: The Real Bev on 14 Dec 2009 21:33 Lenona wrote: > Is it > possible to give money to charities and not have them hound you for > the rest of your life? No, and the hounding continues into the afterlife. After the one-year forward on my mom's mail ended, the Post Office graciously gave all the charities the address to which her mail had been forwarded -- mine. I now receive several begging letters per day for her. It always angered her that the ones she actually contributed to wasted her money on sending her more begging letters. I take a certain amount of satisfaction in the fact that eventually they will have spent more on soliciting her than she gave them during her lifetime. I wish there were some way of punishing the Post Office for what I consider to be an egregious breach of confidentiality. -- Cheers, Bev ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ "Even Islamic terrorists don't hate America like liberals do. They don't have the energy. If they had that much energy, they'd have indoor plumbing by now." -- Ann Coulter
From: VFW on 15 Dec 2009 09:45 In article <7d9e0b4d-5dbe-4f54-b56d-b537997fc964(a)1g2000vbe.googlegroups.com>, Lenona <lenona321(a)yahoo.com> wrote: > I thought Miss Manners' answer to this was clever. > > Lenona. > > http://lifestyle.msn.com/relationships/article.aspx?cp-documentid=22790208 > > Dear Miss Manners, > Some friends and I were discussing what we would do in the unlikely > event that any of us won the lottery, and find we need to appeal to > you on one major question that came up. What is the etiquette involved > in suddenly becoming embarrassingly rich? > > Of course, we all agreed that none of us would flaunt it, but the fact > remains that, even if one accepted the winnings anonymously, one would > have a moral responsibility to use large portions of the winnings to > help out friends, relatives and charities. It would be impossible, in > that case, to hide the fact that one had "come into" a bit of money. > > How does one politely refuse to divulge the exact amount of winnings > received? Or for that matter, the amounts given to various people and > causes, or even the amount of winnings currently remaining? How does > one politely refuse to become a fairy godmother to everybody and their > sister? If one wishes to, say, fund the college education of a > cousin's three children, is it necessary to gift an equal amount of > money to the comfortably well-off cousin's childless sibling? Is it > possible to give money to charities and not have them hound you for > the rest of your life? > > These are burning questions to which we all hope to need the answers > soon. I've heard that you have about the same odds of winning the lottery whether you buy a ticket or not. so, I save the money. Hey, I'm a winner w/o MONEY. IMHO -- money; what a concept!
From: clams_casino on 15 Dec 2009 10:56
VFW wrote: >I've heard that you have about the same odds of winning the lottery >whether you buy a ticket or not. >so, I save the money. Hey, I'm a winner w/o MONEY. >IMHO > > Actually, the odds are 50/50. Either you win or you lose. |